God created you unique to parent your kids. God doesn’t want you to minister someplace other than where He wants you to be. You are created for His plan and purpose. He desires us to do good works for His plan.
I’m Not Listening
I do not know how many times I have wanted something more than just being a stay-at-home mom. Yeah, I know that I homeschool them too, but I didn’t feel like I was making enough of a contribution to society, myself and my family. I needed something more. More, to make myself feel better. All the while, God kept saying to me, “I didn’t give you your family, for you to NOT put them first.”
So, I would try to do put them first, for awhile. I would take time to pray about my parenting skills. To make sure the house was clean. To create beautiful dinners and serve them to my family. But, the problem was that I was doing all of this to fill a void in my heart. I needed to feel like I was doing a good enough job. I wanted people to praise me and make me feel like I was the BEST MOM EVER. All it did, was turn me into a very sensitive person, who bristled whenever anyone would question my methods in homeschooling, housework, parenting, even my wife skills. I was only trying to listen to God to receive praise from others. I didn’t obey God’s words to glorify Him.
Pow!! Slap!! Punch!! Just like the old Batman television show, where you would see the words appear on the screen, God was waking me up to the reality around me. He didn’t call me to put my family first as a checklist that needed to just be done, to receive a gold star. He wanted me to put them first in my heart. To live out His purpose for my life.
My True Heart Revealed
“Two men went to the Temple to pray. One was a Pharisee, and the other was a despised tax collector.
The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed this prayer: ‘I thank God, that I am not like other people – cheaters,
sinners, adulterers. I’m certainly not like that tax collector! I fast twice a week, and I give you a tenth of my income.’
But the tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed. Instead, he beat
his chest in sorrow, saying, ‘O God, be merciful to me, for I am a sinner.’ I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee, returned
home justified before God.”
Luke 18: 10-14
I was the Pharisee, just in disguise as a mom. I was only doing things for my family to look good. I was thanking God that I wasn’t like those moms, who didn’t even keep their kids clean. Or thank goodness I am not like the moms that just abandon their families. I am not like the moms that go to work and never spend time with their kids.
Wow! I was determining whether I was a good mom or not by comparing myself to the other moms around me. I was looking at their downfalls to make myself feel better. I was a hypocrite. I wanted to follow God, yet do His job by judging other moms, and in the process trying to look like the best mom ever. Complete fail!!
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve
for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body.
I have read this passage before and thought, well I haven’t beat my kids. I haven’t abandoned them. I haven’t driven with them in the car drunk. I am a good mom. But what about the lack of patience in my voice. The lack of understanding when they go to talk to me. The lack of putting them first as God has obeyed me to do. I have sinned just as much as those other moms.
I have boasted about how smart my kids are to other moms before. I have told the other moms how my kids got first place in their race. Or, how nice they were to others. I have even put a mom down because she was complaining that she couldn’t keep her house clean. “That’s what kids are for.” I told her, I was that Pharisee mom that needed others to to see how well I was doing. I needed that public praise where everyone just bowed with their mouths open saying, “Look at her, I wish I was a mom like her!!”
Watch out! Don’t do your good deeds publicly, to be admired by others, for you will lose
the reward from your Father in heaven.
My heart just sunk when I realized how I was living for the world and not for God.
4 Steps That God Created For You to be the Best Parent You can be
Let me put it another way. The law was our guardian until Christ came; it protected
us until we could be made right with God through faith.
We need to understand that we live the life we were meant to live, when we live in faith. Faith is the complete trust in someone or something. Not partial trust. We can not become the parents God designed us to be, for our kids, if we do not trust God whole heartedly. We can not trust God only when things are going well, and then when they start to fall apart want the control back, because we think that we can do a better job. We need to trust Him at all times. Especially with our kids, whom He loves more than we can comprehend.
For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom
to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love.
God has broken our chains!! We are FREE!! That should make us want to jump up and down for joy. But, in this freedom is the call to love others, starting with our families first. Loving them in the good times and the bad times. Not just when it fits into your daily schedule. Loving them in the middle of their temper tantrums, when they talk back, when they have gotten on your last nerve and you want to scream. We are to love them for who they are, but discipline them to in a way that pleases God.
When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them.
Always be eager to practice hospitality.
God calls all the children in the world his most blessed prize. Jesus loved the little children constantly, even when he was tired. Hospitality focuses on taking care of visitors and strangers. How much more would God want us to take care of our own children then?
Pray in the spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be
persistent in your prayers for all of God’s holy people.
Our biggest defense in being a parent, is prayer. God calls us to pray all the time.We are to pray for all of His people that would definitely include our kids. When things get so out of control that you want to scream and shout, pray instead. When the house is a mess and you are tired, pray asking God for help in your dilemma. When the kids are sleeping and look like angels, pray for them. In all things that we do pray. I know as a mom, in the midst of my life, I forget to pray like I should. Then the monster within me ends up coming out and I regret my actions. This wouldn’t happen if I would learn to pray more first.
- Faith – trusting in God that He has our life and our kids’ lives in His hands. That He is the one that is ultimately in control.
- Freedom – with this responsibility we are called to love others. God didn’t give us our family to put them second, we are to love them first.
- Hospitality – taking care of all of your kids needs, financially, emotionally, physically and especially spiritually
- Prayer – praying at all times, for all things.
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