Be Careful Little Eyes What You See!!

 

 I don’t know about you, but as I mom, I seem to notice more inappropriate images every where that I go with my kids. I get so frustrated that they see images (usually of women) dressed inappropriately all the time. I currently have a 9 year old daughter that is such a girly girl. She loves fashion and just girly things in general.  Dressing modestly is something that is very dear to me, and I feel like I am fighting a losing battle.

How, What the Eyes See Affect Our Thoughts


Think of the time that you were driving down the road and saw a sign with a juicy hamburger and thought, wow, I could really go for a hamburger right now. You start to crave that hamburger and your thoughts are nothing but, how hungry you are all of sudden. The same thing is true when it comes to sexual images portrayed around us.

Younger Kids


Early exposure to sexual content in the media may have a profound impact on children’s values, attitudes and behaviors toward sex and relationships. Unfortunately, media portrayals do not always reflect the message parents want to send. (more…)

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Cycle 2 Week 14 FREE Resources

 

Cycle 2 Week 14 FREE

Resources

History: World War I Leaders


http://www.ducksters.com/history/world_war_i/ – gives information about each person, the only person not included is Clemenceau of France

http://www.bbc.co.uk/history/interactive/animations/western_front/index_embed.shtml – animated map of Europe that shows the advancement of troops as the war went on.

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Letting Go and Letting God Be The Parent

Letting Go and Letting Go Be The Parent

One of the hardest things to do in life is to be a parent. I have read plenty of books on the idea of parenting. But, nothing can prepare you for when a child struggles with something that you can not help them with.

Teenage Years

This past week I have watched my teenage daughter struggle in ways that has brought me to tears. Between boyfriend issues, a lot of tests at school and other obstacles, she has been a mess. I have tried to talk to her, hold her, just let her know that I am there for her. I have talked with grandparents, aunts and uncles about just showering her with love and attention. I don’t want her to feel alone, nothing has seemed to help.

So what do you do when you are out of your element, ask for help. I do not feel that I am capable of helping her with some of the emotional issues that are arising. She says that her emotions get so BIG that thoughts of suicide have crossed her mind. That feelings of just ending it all to make the pain go away, keep coming. This is no joke. I have gone from scared to sad to angry in the past few days. Now I am just exhausted.

Dealing With More Than You Can Handle

This past Monday I took her to a medical center for a mental evaluation. We were there for a little over 7 hours. They did a lot of medical examinations, including, chest x-rays, EKG, blood tests, and more. They didn’t find anything wrong, so they sent her to the psychologist, for a mental evaluation. She looked so upset and embarrassed. She kept saying that everyone was going to think that she was crazy now. I just kept explaining that we all need help sometimes and that getting help is better than bottling it all up inside and pretending that you are okay when your not.

The look on her face was heart breaking. I wanted to just grab her arm and run out the door with her. To take her somewhere where she could feel safe and loved again. Some place where I felt like I had more control in her life again. But, what would that solve. NOTHING!!! So I made myself calm down, put on a smile and started talking about anything in life that might make her smile.

After about an hour in the mental evaluation room, the psychologist came out to talk to me. She asked me if I had any concerns and I told her about how she said that her emotions would get so big that she thought about suicide. That it scared her. I told her about what was going on in her life that was causing stress. I then asked her straight up, if there were any red flags that she noticed. You see, my daughter is the child that gets good grades, helps others, is loved by her teachers, is honest, and wants to do well in life. I hadn’t seen her grades drop, her friends hadn’t changed, and nothing else in her life warranted a red flag to pop up. I was confused as to how to help her or what was going on.

The psychologist proceeded to tell me that she didn’t see any red flags either. That sometimes between hormones and other stressors, that their emotions just change. That’s great, but it still didn’t help me figure out what to do to help her. So I told the psychologist that what was going on with my daughter was out of my element and that I didn’t know how to help her anymore. She said, all that I could to was be there for her. To really listen to her. And to seek the help of a counselor.

So that is what we are doing. The hard part is that I think she forgot the most important part of all, the powerful element of GOD!!

God’s Role in All of This!!

God already knows what is going to happen way before we do. We can choose to obey and follow His plan, or we can try to make a path of our own. The second idea usually ends up with something bad happening, trust me I know.

So as I left the medical center this week and headed home, I just kept praying. Praying to God that He would have to be in charge of this situation. That He is the best parent for what is going on and that I would follow His lead.

I don’t want to go through this alone. I don’t want to fell helpless and afraid as her parent. And with God I do not have to.

“I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD In the land of the living. Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.” (Psalm 27:13-14)

“Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it.” (Psalm 37:5)

“”For I am the LORD your God, who upholds your right hand, Who says to you, ‘Do not fear, I will help you.'” (Isaiah 41:13)

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving

let your requests be made known to God.” (Philippians 4:6)

“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:6-7)

In the midst of a parenting storm, rely on Him. Know that our God is stronger than we will ever be. That He cares for us and loves our children more than we can ever imagine. That in Him we find peace and strength to keep moving on, trying to be the best parents that we can be.

If you are struggling with how to help your child, STOP right now and pray to God. Tell Him that you can no longer do this alone. That you need Him to step in and take control. That you are waiting on Him. That you trust Him and will follow Him in this situation.

Then, just sit back, be still and know that our God WILL provide a solution, if we just wait, listen and obey. Even though this is one of the hardest things to do in life, it is essential to our sanity, to our children turning out to be a Godly person, to our whole relationship with our kids.

Please comment below, how God has helped you as a parent. Or, how we may pray for you in your struggles as a parent.

May peace and strength be with you today and the days to come. God bless.

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Review – Story of The World – Volume 1

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This is our second year of using Story of the World Series: by Susan Wise Bauer, at the beginning of this year for my eight and five year old. Here is our review of this Social Studies Series:

Pros

The stories that are in the book are easy to read and are in simple fiction format. Susan takes the time to include important vocabulary, but not at the expense of the understanding of your child. I also like the pictures that are in the textbook. They are kid friendly and point out the important parts of the text.

I love the activity book. Each chapter includes encyclopedia cross references, review questions, narration exercise, additional history reading, corresponding literature, map work, coloring page(s), and project(s). We do the map activity before the beginning of each chapter. This allows my children to understand what region of the world we are learning about. I also use the coloring pages for them to color while I am reading. Sometimes I want to read a little more from the story book and their attention span is just not there yet. They tend to sit a lot longer for me if they are coloring. I love the list of books that correspond with each chapter. We like to go to the library the weekend before a new chapter and get some books that relate to the topic, that we will be reading about in our Story of The World book. Finally, my favorite thing about the activity book is the list of projects. You might be creating a crown when you read about Egypt, a paper coat to resemble Joseph’s colorful coat, or a Mohenjo-Dara dwelling out of clay. My kids love all of the projects that we have made and look forward to them.

I like how the author also talks about creating a time line with your kids. We decided to use all of their coloring pages and maps to create a timeline around our school room. We tape them up along the top of the wall to create a timeline. Some other people use a big cork board and smaller pictures to create their timeline. Whatever method you use, creating a timeline helps your child to visualize what they have learned in Social Studies for the year. I refer to the timeline quite often before we read a new chapter to review what we have learned so far.

I like how the program is created for four years and then you cover the same material, but at a different level. For example, in first grade you start learning about 1,500 B.C. to 400 A.D. Then in second grade you learn about 400 A.D. to 1600 A.D. You continue learning about world history all the way till present day in fourth grade. Then in fifth grade you start to learn about 1,500 B.C. to 400 A.D. but at a higher level. Then in ninth grade, they learn about the same time period but at a much higher level. So by the time that they are in ninth grade, they will have learned about the same time period twice before and will be able to discuss, defend and apply their knowledge in a whole new way.

Cons

The only complaint that I have against this social studies curriculum is that there is a lot of material to cover in one year.

Overall

I highly recommend the Story of The World curriculum for your 1-8 grader. This series is meant to be used with 1-4 graders but, can be used with older kids depending on their level of understanding of ancient history.

 

 

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Let it Go – Give it to God

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Dear Fellow Strugglers,

My husband and I have disagreed over the same issue for about 4 years. It is hard, because it is an issue that brings up a lot of hurt from my past. The problem is that he just sees the issue one way, and I see it another way. For four years we have fought, yelled, cried, and even nagged each other about it. I have had enough. I do not want to be in a situation that causes me so much pain. I want to run away. Divorce has even crossed my mind, but is not an option.

This past weekend I found myself in tears around 1 o’clock in the morning. I was so hurt with this issue that we were fighting about, again, that I couldn’t sleep. I got up and decided to clean the house. I find that if I do something, besides feel sorry for myself or worry, that I can calm down much quicker. So, I went about emptying the dishwasher and picking up the toys in the living room. I finally became tired, so I laid back down. I started to pray, ” please God help me be the wife that you want me to be. I want to run away. I want to make the hurt stop. I do not want to face this issue anymore.” Then I fell asleep.

The next day I woke up and felt like I was hit by a truck. I was so tired, my head hurt,  and my body just want to go back to sleep, (not an option when you have kids). So I got up and made myself some tea. Then my husband got up. I did not want to talk with him. How could someone who claimed that they loved me so much, also hurt me so much? I was angry. There was no way that I was going to talk to him. I just got my breakfast and sat down on the couch. I turned on the t.v. and ignored him.

Later that day I had to go to town, (we live in the middle of no where). So as I was driving to town, I prayed again, “Dear Lord, please help us figure out this issue. Help me to be the kind of wife that you would want me to be.” I ran some errands in town, then started the trek back home. I didn’t want to go back home. I was still mad. So on the drive home I prayed again, “Please Lord you have to help me. I do not want to hurt anymore. I want to be a better wife. Help me to be the kind of wife that you want me to be.” You see, I have never been around a marriage that has lasted. I have never been part of a relationship where people talked about things and fixed them together. All I had ever seen or been part of were destructive relationships that split up in the end. I did not want to be that kind of wife anymore that yelled, or cried, or even wanted to run away.

Finding My Answer

As I was driving home, God spoke to me. He told me to just give the issue to Him. I need to love my husband and forgive him. To stop worrying. That He would take care of the issue. I’m sure that means in His own time. He also told me to not ask my husband about this issue anymore. That was it. So I did.

I still pray all the time for God to help us with this issue. My husband and I have made sure that we pray about this issue every night together. We pray that God will keep our marriage strong no matter what comes our way. That he will help each of us figure out our problems with the issue that we have. Praying together has helped us with letting go of our own stubbornness and give it to God.

I hope that as you read this, that you may see how amazing God is with His ability to heal. To help us fix things that we can not fix on our own. I pray that if you are struggling with something in your life and it seems like no matter what you do, the issue just does not get any better, that you let go and give it to God.

May God bless you and give you peace,

Miranda Templar

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