* This book study comes from The Love Dare book by Stephen & Alex Kendrick. Their book can be bought on amazon. I am only paraphrasing from their book.
Day 40 – Love is a Covenant
“Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.” Ruth 1:16
Congratulations on making it to the last day of The Love Dare. The journey is not over yet. Just because you are at the end of the book does not mean that you can relax and just let your marriage be. Marriage takes time and commitment. The more effort that you put into your marriage the more rewarding it will be.
I went to www.christianitytoday.com to look up the marriage statistics for 2014. I found this: “53% of very happy couples agree with the statement “God is at the center of our marriage.”” I found that a very interesting statement, because the rest of the article goes on to talk about couples that claim they are religious but do not really practice their faith “Are actually 20% more likely than the general population to get divorced – perhaps there is a link between putting on a show in the religious and relational context.”
I thought that it was very eye opening to see how much a difference God can truly make in a marriage. When you put God first in you marriage, you learn to find your happiness in God and not in your spouse. This is a big weight off your spouse’s shoulders, because no other human being can make you truly happy, all the time. They are human and will have times where they let you down.
I also thought that it was interesting, that to have a truly happy marriage, you must practice putting God first in your marriage. I know that my husband and I have gone away from putting God first in our marriage a few times, and it has caused major problems. We become selfish people who seek to be right all the time, instead of putting the greater good of the marriage first. Eventually we finally realize that we have not been putting God first, and that we need to go back to making Him first in our marriage.
I highly recommend finding time everyday to read the Bible. If your spouse doesn’t mind, read the Bible together. Start out with just 15 minutes. Also remember to be praying together. Taking time out of the hectic day to pray together helps to build confidence in each person, that your spouse truly cares for you and wants to let God know that. These two things will make a huge difference in you marriage.
Finally remember your wedding vows, “Till death do us part.” You made a covenant with your spouse, before God to love them forever. Now there are some situations where people should get divorced (abuse, constant adultery), but God HATES divorce. He did not create marriage for it to be taken so lightly. I believe that getting married just to see if it will work out, is setting your marriage up for divorce from the beginning.
Do not stop with The Love Dare. Go get the book, if you haven’t already. There are so many more resources that they offer that I have not given to you within my blogs. I want to pray for you marriage before we wrap this book study up. “Dear Lord, watch over their marriage. Help them to turn to you in times of struggle. Help them to have the strength to keep fighting for their marriage when it seems like it is hopeless. Make them one with each other. Let them know that putting You first in their marriage will change any bad situation into a light that never goes out. May they each have their eyes opened to the wonderful covenant that they made to each other. May their marriage be blessed with your grace and may they live happily ever after. Amen”
“Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.”
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