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I do not know about you, but it seems like in the spring time my kids get a little more grumpier. They have a hard time listening, following directions and getting along with each other. I tried to look for a new way to discipline my kids, but, I was sick and tired of all of the consequence reward ideas that I found. So I asked myself, what is the biggest goal I have for my kids when they grow up. That was easy, I want them to follow God and be a light in the world. I decided to create a creative behavior chart that would allow me to not only focus on an area that I wanted to change, but also an area that I could praise and reward them on.
Godly Character Charts
So I started with the behavior chart. I made four charts. There are rocket ships for boys and butterflies for girls. Then I made a chart for children that are younger than 5 years old and a chart for kids that are 5 years and older. To use these charts you list one behavior that they display that is unwanted. For example, maybe they forget to pick up after themselves. So on the top line, below the butterfly, you would list, didn’t pick up. Then on the bottom line, you would list the opposite Godly Character Trait of tidiness. This allows you to have them make an x in the first star, on the top set of stars, every time that they forget to pick up something. The bottom set of stars, lets them put an x for each time that they remember to pick up after themselves. Next, you need to list three consequences in the top section. The consequence can stay the same, or you can make the consequences get bigger. Then, when your child puts an x over the star with the number 1, they receive the consequence listed on line one. This leaves the guessing for what consequence they will receive out of the equation. No longer do you have to decide what the consequence will be in the heat of the moment. Now, take time to list rewards on the bottom line. You could have the kids help you with this area, that way they feel invested in the behavior chart. Remind them that the rewards should start out small and then get bigger. You could give them a few suggestions for each line and have them pick the ones that they like. Finally, you are all set to use the chart. Use this chart anyway that suites your family’s needs.
List of Character Traits
Then I decided to come up with a list of Godly character traits. I know that as a parent knowing the end goal, helps me to figure out what steps to take to get there. I took the list and decided which trait is the most important to me right now and circled it. Then I tried to work on those Godly traits first. Once my child had mastered that character trait then I moved on to try to have them master the next trait. The list is pretty long and I do not want any parent to feel overwhelmed when they look at the list. Focus on one area at a time and this will help not only you but also your kids in knowing what exactly is expected from them.
List of Poor Behaviors
After that I made a list of undesirable behaviors. This lists helped me to verbalize the behavior that my child is doing that bothers me the most. It is so easy to look at our kids and say, “Why can’t they stop doing this, and this, and this, and this…” The list can go keep filling up with our negative view of our kid(s). That is why I suggest only focusing on one area first.
List of Consequences
That is why I made the Godly Character Chart the way that I did. This chart allows you to focus on only one negative behavior and one Godly character trait at a time. On top of all of these worksheets, I created a creative consequence one as well. This worksheets helps us as parents to give our kids consequences that are relevant to the behavior. To me, this is the area in disciplining our children that matters the most. If we do not give our kids the correct consequence for their inappropriate behavior, then they do not learn from their mistake.
List of Rewards by Age
Finally on top of giving an appropriate consequence for their behavior, we also need to give praise to our kids. We need to lift them up in a world that does enough tearing them down. I created a list of rewards that will allow you to have fun and enjoy time with your kids, all the while teaching them to behave in a way that allows you to have a peaceful and enjoyable home.
Stop feeling defeated. Download these printable charts and lists to help you raise Godly kids who make the world a better place.