House or Home Parenting Edition week 1
* This book study comes from Chip Ingram’s House or Home Parenting Edition book study. I really suggest ordering this series: http://livingontheedge.org///broadcasts/series?name=house-or-home-parenting-edition&mt=TV.
Week 1 – Is there a Parent in the House (Part 1)
“The greatest joys you will ever experience on this planet will have to do with your children. The greatest sorrows you will ever experience on this planet will have to do with your children.”
Take a moment to think about this. Our children make us smile, laugh and love in ways that nobody else can make us do. They can also make us worry, cry and become so frustrated that we want to pull our hair out.
4 Biblical Principles to Become Godly Parents:
1. Godly parents begin with positive, clear-cut objectives and goals. I had to sit and really think about this. For so long I had wanted my kids to get the best grades, be the best athlete, have an amazing singing voice and all the other goals that our society wants. But that is not what I truly wanted for my kids. Having the best grades does not guarantee them a great life. Being an amazing athlete, will get them where in life? Less than 1% of kids ever make it to the pros. Being a great singer will lead them where? None of these objectives helped me to get my kids, where I want and think they should be when they grow up.
I had to reset my goals. I knew above all else that I wanted my kids to follow God and care about others. Kids that love other people and make a difference in a world that is falling apart. “Fathers don’t over-correct your children or make it difficult for them to obey the commandment. Bring them up with Christian teaching in Christian discipline.” (Ephesians 6:4) This is hard for me. I was brought up where grades and sports were what mattered the most. My parents did what they thought was best, but never did I once do something to help someone else. My world when I was little was all about me and my immediate family.
So I stopped and listened as Chip said “do not parent out of fear.” That was me. What if my child didn’t get the best grades, what would everyone think? What if my child wasn’t the best athlete, what would everyone think? I was constantly focusing on worldly views and not Godly views. “God’s primary agenda for your child is to make them like Christ.” So I knew my focus needed to be on the character of my kids, and not the worldly activities that they could do.
To do all of this Chip listed these three letters BIO. The B stands for come before God daily. I make sure that I read the Bible everyday and pray everyday. The I stands for do life in community weekly. I need to make sure that we connect with relationships that help us to grow in God. The O stands for, be on missions 24/7. Be on the lookout for people that need help. Try to live in the mind-set that Jesus would want us to have.
The other three biblical principles are listed in week 2’s session. Take the time to follow the first biblical principle this week, knowing that next week you will be asked to follow 3 more biblical parenting principles.
With all of this I set out to change my parenting style. I hope that you can take the time to reevaluate your goals as a parent. Then follow BIO this week. Let me know how your week went. May God bless and give peace to all of you.