I Don’t FEEL Like Adulting Anymore
Today I woke up and felt tired. I felt sad, annoyed and just grumpy. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to clean the dog pee on the floor or make my kids breakfast. I didn’t want to make my husband his lunch. And I definitely didn’t want to wash the dishes, do the laundry, pick up the house, or the other never ending list of chores that I always have.
I do NOT FEEL like adulting anymore. I QUIT!!!
My Life By How I FEEL
What if I lived my life, by the way that I felt? What if I didn’t want to make my kids breakfast? What if I didn’t FEEL like washing their clothes, or making sure that they kept up with their list of chores? What if I didn’t car about disciplining them, or taking time to listen to them, or even said that we would be doing school that day and then never really did it? What kind of kids would they turn out to be?
What if I got a divorce because I didn’t like my husband anymore (which can happen sometimes)? What if I didn’t say I love you, to him, because, I just don’t FEEL like I do anymore? What if I didn’t make him dinner, or wash his clothes? What if I even decided to not have sex with him anymore? I just don’t feel like it. He doesn’t meet MY needs, or make ME happy anymore.
If I lived by the way that I felt, my life would be a mess. But that is how a lot of people live. By how they feel.
The World Living By How it FEELS
Since, I was a little kid, I can remember listening to songs that talked about people reacting to how they felt. This person, pissed me off, so I am going to have my revenge. I am going to make their life miserable for what they did to me. Or, I feel happy today, because today was all about me. ME, ME, ME. Songs that made marriage sound like the worst idea ever. That sleeping around with others was a much better and more satisfying option. And work, NAH, you don’t need to do that. Just live off of the government, or really just the money from the other people around you that FEEL like they can work, so they actually do.
The rate of divorce from 1800’s to the 1960’s went from 3% to 7%. But, from the 1960’s to the 1970’s the rate at which couples divorced rose to 33%. More than a 26% difference in less than 10 years. Why the difference? People, especially women, felt that they would be happier somewhere else than in the marriage that they were in. Now, I am not saying that divorce is not needed in some situations, but I have watched to many people that I know, just leave their spouse, because they thought the grass was greener on the other side. I am sure that there were problems in the marriage, there always is, but that is no excuse to give up and get a divorce. You made a promise unto God till death do you part, in sickness and in health, not for what are they doing for ME lately attitude. Or, this marriage doesn’t make me happy anymore. And this is my favorite, I do not love them anymore. What would you do, if God decided to stop loving you, because you didn’t make Him happy anymore? We would all be going to hell.
How about our jobs? I am sure that many of you wouldn’t go to work if you didn’t have to. I know that I wouldn’t. Can you imagine what our world would be like if people that didn’t FEEL like going to work, didn’t go. Imagine a hospital where doctors and nurses didn’t show. A prison where the correction guards stayed at home. Our streets with no police patrolling around. Mechanics that didn’t want to work on your car till they FELT ready to. Or farmers that didn’t FEEL like growing crops, milking cows or raising animals for slaughter that year. Our world would suck. Life as we know it would cease to exist.
And parenting our kids?? Yeah right, not today. I am sick of dealing with my kids who fight all the time. They seem selfish and needy. I just don’t FEEL like being a mom/dad anymore. Our kids would grow up to be selfish, indulgent, greedy, suckers of life people. They wouldn’t be a helping hand to society, they would be a menace to society. We would be raising a generation, that when we got older wouldn’t take care of us. A generation that destroys anything and everything around them. All because of how we FEEL.
I am tired of people wanting to live how they FEEL. Feelings come and go as easily as the weather changes. Feelings can help us, but they can also hold us back. If you are living by your feelings, then you are allowing your life to be an uncontrollable mess.
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever
is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or
praiseworthy – think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)
God did not create us to live by our feelings, he made us needy of His love and protection. But, our lives have been inundated by television, music and movies that depict people living by the way that they FEEL. Showing us portraits of teenagers that talk back, husbands that are dumb and wives that rule the roost, sexuality as a free for all, and monogamy has gone out the window. It’s okay in our society to leave your spouse. It’s okay in our society to abandon your kids. It’s okay to love whomever you choose whenever you choose, however you choose, because it makes you happy. Forget the moral compass that we should follow, do what FEELS good to you!!
“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the
renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will
is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)
You see, God’s way is good, pleasing and perfect. Nothing we could ever do or accomplish without Him would be as perfect as His will. You can try to produce a life that you want on your own and live by your FEELINGS, but I promise you it will leave you with regrets and emptiness. SO STOP!! STOP being on the rollercoaster of FEELINGS. Start having a more balanced, pleasing life by following God.
If you have been living by your FEELINGS, and want to stop living that way, find a new way with God. Start by just praying. Every time that you have a negative thought pray to God to help you take it captive. If you have thoughts that seem wrong or unpleasant, let God know that you need His help. Letting Him be in charge of your thoughts will slowly start to produce positive, right way, comfortable thoughts. Your life as a roller coaster will slow down. The hills and valleys will lessen and seem smaller. Don’t waste another day living by how you FEEL. Take charge of your life NOW, by letting God be in charge.